Wednesday, March 26, 2008

toltec wisdom



I just finished reading one of my favorite books - again. It is called The Four Agreements and written by Don Miguel Ruiz. It was on the New York Times Best Seller list for almost a year - if that means anything ;) The basic premise behind this book is that by following four very simple rules you will experience personal freedom. I am not one to spill the beans and give away a plot line but since this is not a writing of fiction and there not much in the way to spoil a plot....and since this is MY blog...



BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.


DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.


DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.


ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self -abuse, and regret.


My favorite quote from the book is in the 5th chapter The Fourth Agreement; Always Do Your Best:

"If you live in a past dream, you don't enjoy what is happening right now because you will always wish it to be different than it is. This is no time to miss anyone or anything because you are alive...
"We don't need to know or prove anything. Just to be, to take a risk and enjoy your life, is all that matters."


4 comments:

Andria said...

"Don't take anything personally". That needs to be the motto which I live by!

Jenna said...

#2 Don't Take Anything Personally is so true. When I stopped taking offense I realized very few people actually ever meant to offend me.

#3 Don't Make Assumptions is particularly true in marriage. I always speak what I mean and work to clarify what my hubby means. Following this one will has saved us innumerable unnecessary conflicts.

Lydia said...

Sounds like a great book full of wisdom we can all use.

Mom

Honey said...

I love this book! I wrote each agreement out and put them were I would see them everyday!!